Must Have Beauty Products at Walmart

Let’s face it, sometimes looking our best can cost an arm and a leg. I, more than anyone, love to spend money on products that promise to make me look and feel amazing. However, trying to keep up with the latest trends and have the best products can get super pricey. And, contrary to popular belief, there are some amazing products out there that sit on the shelves of a place other than Sephora. What if I told you that there’s some bomb products at your local Walmart? Sure, these products can be found at most drug stores. But, the affordable prices and massive number of stores make Walmart the place that most people can go and shop for beauty products. I want you to be able to gather your loot all in one place. So, here’s a round up of my must have beauty products that you can get at Walmart.

Let’s start with body products that I love.

Banana Boat Summer Color Self-Tanning Mist 

It’s officially Spring, and I cannot live without this product. My winter pastiness is at an all time high and this product truly saves me. I currently have half of a can that I’m patiently saving for a trip to the beach next week. You can get multiple applications from one $10 bottle.

This product gives the best color of any self tanner that I’ve ever used. No orange here. The mist is really fine, which makes it easy to get a smooth, no-streak application. You can get your own back and everything thanks to the continuous spray at all angles. The mist dries really quickly, especially if you stand outside or under a ceiling fan. I spray it on and wait about five minutes before getting dressed and heading out the door. In about an hour, a really pretty, rich tan appears, and I’m a new woman.

Hawaiian Tropic Lime Colada After Sun Moisturizer

This is, hands down, my favorite product on the whole list. I, very luckily, picked up this product years ago and haven’t put it down since. If you want a rich moisturizer for all over, then look no further. This product is marketed for use after tanning or being in the sun, but I love it all the time. It smells like tropical Starburst and feels like butter. Does it get any better?

I do think you need to snatch this product off the shelf immediately as it warms up and you spend more time in the sun. It has aloe, and it heals and nourishes your skin. If you ever get a sunburn, you will love this lotion even more. Every time I put it on when I have a sunburn, within a day the redness and pain is dramatically reduced. Also, I’ve never gotten any peeling when I used this product. It feels amazing and way better than that sticky, shockingly cold Green Stuff you put in the refrigerator. One pump of this, and you’re a sun kissed goddess in paradise. That should be their tag line.

Jergen’s Wet Skin Moisturizer

This is a brand new find for me, but oh, man, I love it. I don’t know who came up with this idea, but they’re a genius. With this moisturizer, you actually apply it while you’re soaking wet. Weird, right? After you shower and turn the water off, apply this lotion all over. It feels like it doesn’t sink into the skin at all, but just wait. Once you’ve applied, towel off and your skin will feel silky smooth. It’s like magic. There was a huge difference in my skin after application. My skin is moisturized and soft all day with this lotion. It’s really quick and convenient, which makes it even better.

Dr. Teal’s Epsom Salt and Foaming Bath

Ok, it’s the end of a long, stressful day at work. I don’t know about you, but I’m going to be found in the bathtub. Candles are lit, John Mayer is singing, and I’m forgetting the world. What makes this time even better though are these bath products. I love the Dr. Teals brand of Epsom Salts and Bubble Bath. You can get them both in a variety of scents. They claim to do different things, such as stress relief, muscle pain relief, calming, sleep aid, and more.

No matter what “flavor” I use, I always feel more calm and refreshed from my bath when I use the salts or the bubble bath. As an added bonus, my skin feels softer. The bubble bath produces a decent amount of bubbles and they last for awhile. Now, I don’t think constant bubble baths are necessarily good for your feminine health, so I like to have one only every now and then. In between times, I break out the bath salts. They don’t have the satisfying bubbles, but they do have a fizzing quality that’s equally relaxing.

You can’t feel beautiful without luscious locks, right?

Batiste Dry Shampoo

Best dry shampoo you can get on a budget. Do I have to say any more? Seriously, this gives my hair new life without looking like I caked my head in dry shampoo. I can even wear my hair completely down on the second day with this dry shampoo. Usually, dry shampoo can get me a pass the next day as long as I at least pull the sides up. Not this bad boy.

Pantene Dry Shampoo

This is another great alternative if you can’t find Batiste or if you just want something different. In fact, this dry shampoo has less of a white cast than Batiste. The spray comes out more clear than powder white. It does a great job of making my hair look clean as well. It doesn’t feel thick and sticky in your hair, which is a total pet peeve of mine when it comes to dry shampoo. I can go several days without washing my hair with this product.

Tresemme Perfectly (un)Done Hairspray

I hate stiff hairspray. I cannot take it. The crunch of hair sprayed hair sends chills up my spine. I think it was too many turns in the beauty chair with the Kenra flying as a child that traumatized me. I liked pageants and my mama loved Kenra. Y’all know the one I’m talking about? The 25? I think Kenra would hold your hair in place through a tornado, but I digress.

This is the only hairspray I like to use. I want my hair to move throughout the day. It feels weird when it doesn’t. Even when I curl my hair, I like to use a light hold hairspray. I’ve found that this one helps keep my style without the crunchy feeling at all. I can brush through my hair, and the style still holds. You may not want to use this for an event, but for everyday, it’s definitely a must have beauty product.

And, finally, my favorite, the makeup.

Wet n Wild Photo Focus Foundation

First of all, this foundation costs $5. Technically, it doesn’t even cost a whole $5 before tax. I love this stuff. This foundation gives you a demi matte finish that makes your skin look healthy and perfected. It’s not full on matte, so there’s still some life to your skin. It covers up the redness in my cheeks and doesn’t settle in my fine lines. It truly makes your skin look amazing. Also, their big claim for this product is that it photographs well, and I totally agree. I wore this foundation in my best friend’s wedding, and it worked beautifully through a long day with lots of photos. No flashback or chalk face. And it lasted all day and night.

Maybelline Dream Matte Mousse

I keep a stock of this foundation at all times. I actually used to wear this in high school and forgot about it for a long time. Recently, I picked it back up and haven’t put it down since. It’s a mousse, just like it claims. I really like the different texture. Something about the mousse formula gives your skin a smooth appearance. Nothing that I own looks more natural than this foundation. I get more compliments on my skin with this foundation than any other, including my pricier ones.

I will say though, it may take some getting used to the texture. By the way, if you find that this or any product doesn’t work, Walmart always takes makeup back with a receipt. Also, my advice is to apply this foundation with a kabuki brush for the best application. Beauty sponges work, but it’s hard to get a lot of product and it takes longer. I find a brush gives me the best finish. The matte finish is not cakey at all. And maybelline has a great shade range, so you can find your color.

Wet n Wild MegaGlo Highlighting Powder in Precious Petal

This is one of my favorite highlighters, drugstore or otherwise. I keep this highlighter in my professional kit as a makeup artist. Every time I use it on a client it looks great. It has a very smooth texture that gives a really pretty sheen to the skin. It doesn’t emphasize pores or texture, and it catches the light beautifully. The color is a champagne, light rose gold, and it is so flattering on so many skin tones. Again, Wet n Wild is one of the most affordable of all the brands listed here, and this is another one of their best products.

Rimmel ScandalEyes Mascara

I just discovered this mascara, and I cannot get enough of it. This may actually be the first Rimmel product I’ve ever loved. This mascara does wonders for my lashes. I prefer volume over length, and this, surprisingly, gives me both. Usually, you have to compromise one to get the other. Not with this one. My lashes look much longer and thicker with this mascara. It doesn’t take a lot of work to get those results either. It lasts all day long with no flaking or smudging. It’s my new favorite for sure.

L’Oréal Lash Paradise

Everybody and their mama loves this mascara, and I’m no different. I was skeptical because I actually don’t like the Carbon Black that most people love. However, this one is worth the hype. If you love the Too Faced Better Than Sex mascara, then you have to go get this one immediately. It’s a fraction of the price and a total dupe. I mean even the packaging is crazy similar. It also does a great job of giving length and volume. I don’t get as much volume with it as the Rimmel, but it is a great, long lasting mascara.

Real Techniques Miracle Complexion Makeup Blender Sponge

I love beauty sponges, but I just cannot fork over $20 for a Beauty Blender. They are fantastic, but that’s a $20 sponge. If you’re like me, then don’t worry. Real Techniques makes a sponge that is affordable and awesome. You wet this sponge just like the BB or any other beauty sponge, and it works magic on your skin. If you find that your foundation looks heavy, then try applying with this damp sponge. Chances are, it will remove the cake and leave your skin looking more fresh. It does a great job of removing excess product and giving you an even application. This sponge has a flat side that makes it really easy to bake and carve out the areas of your face you may want to sculpt.

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I hope you enjoyed this list of must have beauty products at Walmart. I can think of several more products that are great, but this list is enough for now. These are my absolute top favorites anyway. Next time you’re out shopping, browse the beauty aisles and pick up a few of these affordable items and let me know what you think!

Thanks for reading and hanging out with me. If you’re interested in more beauty recommendations from someone who obsesses over beauty products, check out my post on the Best Skincare Products at Sephora and Ulta.

The Truth About Useless College Degrees

Have you ever heard people talk about useless college degrees? Maybe someone cautioned you in college about the degree you pursued. Perhaps, they questioned your degree choice, and, in turn, made you question if you chose the right path.

I often had people questioning me as I was pursuing my undergraduate degree in English. It would infuriate me for someone to suggest that I wasn’t making the best choice or tell me that I could “do better”. I felt like I knew what I wanted, and I knew where my talents were.

Here’s the thing though, what if those people were right all along?

Typically, society tells us that college is the answer. Everyone should make college their goal because college equals success. I always thought that. I assumed that getting a college degree would translate into success for me. Success being a reasonably good income, a fulfilling job, and the ability to enjoy life.

However, what people don’t tell you is that if you aren’t strategic in choosing your degree path, college can actually leave you in debt and out of luck by the time you’re finished.

So, what is the truth about useless college degrees?

Well, frankly, they do exist.

I hate saying that, but it’s just true. My twenty-two year old self scorns me and laughs in my face somewhere. But, y’all, it is possible to get a college degree that is more or less useless.

Let me define how I’m using the term “useless.” To me, in terms of a degree, this means one which is not immediately applicable to a job/career path.

In terms of self-growth and interest, anything you pursue will be beneficial for you. Learning, in any capacity, is important and good for the soul and for humanity. But let’s be real, what’s good for my soul ain’t good for my pocketbook, ok?

Am I saying become a sell-out? No. Am I saying do something you have no interest in to gain the all-mighty dollar? No. Am I saying make sure your degree choice will lead you to a prosperous future? Yes, absolutely.

I finished my degree and all of a sudden I was like, ok, now what? There was no clear path for me to follow. I had a degree that could apply to a lot of things and nothing at all. I made the fatal mistake of believing that if I went to class and finished my degree that a job would be waiting for me at the end. Wrong, wrong, wrong.

I felt smart and capable in college. Heck, I had a 4.0 all the way through, but then the world didn’t give a crap about that. And that’s all I had to my name. I didn’t have any real job experience or any skills that were directly related to the demands of the workforce. On top of that, the degree I had didn’t really apply to anything.

I found myself out of college and jobless. Unfortunately, I didn’t even know where to begin to find that career that was supposed to now be mine for the taking. The job searches I did all turned out to need a more focused, less broad degree and set of skills. I thought I was prepared for and marketable for so many things. Sadly, I learned that I was prepared for very little.

Did I think a job was going to fall out of the sky? No (but kind of). I did, though, think that I would come out prepared for work and a career. Wrong.

Don’t just take my word for it either. So many people that I know experienced the same thing that I did. We were disillusioned by the idea of college and the narrative that told us once we were done we would achieve success.

So, what do I do if I have or get one of these useless college degrees?

1. Don’t beat yourself up about it.

It’s what you did or what you want to do, and that’s ok. Sometimes, I think whyyyyy did I do this to myself when I was capable of so much more, and that’s an unfair way to think.

I chose my degree for a reason, and so did you. Remind yourself why you made that decision and embrace it. I don’t think I would be as understanding of people if I hadn’t spent so many years studying literature. I don’t think I would have the courage to blog if I hadn’t spent so many years writing and studying great writing.

So, ultimately, I did benefit, I do have a job, and I’m dong well; it just didn’t happen in the way I expected.

2. Hustle, baby.

If you get a broad degree like I did that is not tied to a direct career path, be prepared to hustle to find a career. It is possible, I promise. I don’t in any way suggest that these degrees I’m deeming useless will never get you a job. Of course they will!

But, you are going to have to be more creative in how you get those jobs. You’re going to have to outwork those who are more directly qualified for those jobs.

Find a way to make it work. You can, I promise! I have found ways that my degree works for me, and I’m working and in a steady career path.

Thankfully, it really isn’t all about the degree you have. If you can sell yourself and work hard, you can find a job. Like I keep saying, it just is going to be harder and it may not be the one you had in mind.

Maybe you can find a non-traditional way to make money or to utilize your degree. Is there an opportunity for you to start your own business? Start a blog? Work online?

So what’s the big take away here?

1. Know your goals.

2. Choose a degree path that will directly lead you to those goals.

3. Make sure you research, research, research to ensure you are doing everything you can to achieve those goals outside of the degree alone.

4. Don’t depend on your shiny diploma to get you a job.

5. If you have one of these degrees, understand what it taught you and do whatever it takes to go after what you really want.

I am proud of my degree. Actually, I even went back to school for my Master’s in the same thing. (Mostly because I didn’t know what else to do and couldn’t find a job, but I digress.) I think I have a knack for analyzing and critical thinking. I think words are my thing. So, my degree does work for me. I never had a day where I dreaded class or questioned if I loved what I was doing. However, I did doubt where it was going to take me.

I just wish I would have known and been prepared for the harsh reality of the world and the job market. What would have happened if someone would have told me to narrow my focus? Perhaps I could have taken other classes more closely related to the field I dreamed of. Or, maybe I would have realized that I needed to make a change.

I’m so sorry if this post seems super negative. It truly is not meant to be that at all. Rather, consider it more of a cautionary tale. If you went through college and got a degree like mine, then you can relate. If you are in the process of deciding on what degree to pursue, then remember what I’m telling you. Follow your interests, but make sure that they are able to lead you in the direction you want to go after college. If not, then make sure you’re ok with that.

How to Protect Your Quality Time at Home

The Importance of Quality Time at Home

If you’re new here, first of all, I’m so incredibly happy to have you. I want you to know that this blog is all about creating and maintaining a happy, fulfilled lifestyle. That means making sure we are healthy, happy, and motivated. It also means that we’re taking care of our selves as well as our relationships with others.

One of the things that’s most important to your sense of peace and contentment is valuing and protecting your quality time at home.

Quality time, for me, looks like time spent with loved ones without the hustle and bustle of jobs, stress, and any other distracting factors. Sometimes, it also looks like time by myself refocusing and re-energizing to be my best self.

Here are my best tips for how to make the most out of your quality time at home.

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Leave work at work.

Sometimes leaving work behind is a lot easier said than done. But trust me, it’s a MUST. When I first started teaching, the demands of the job completely overwhelmed me. There were lessons to plan and create, tests to perfect, assignments to write, and papers to grade. Not to mention all of the things I actually tried to get done during the work day.

To say that I came home stressed out is a complete understatement.

I would bring home piles of work, but I still felt like I wasn’t getting anything accomplished. That’s because I wasn’t. The only thing I was actually doing was causing myself major headaches. I was ill at home and frustrated because I was overworked. There was no chance to look forward to coming home at the end of the day because the work never ended.

Finally, I had enough and learned an important lesson that keeps me sane on the regular. Leave work at work. Seriously, do not bring it home with you unless you absolutely have to. There will always be one more report to finish, a few more emails to answer, etc. I promise, they can wait.

Having time away from your work is what preserves your happy home life. You don’t want your house to become a place of stress and high demand like your work. Give your brain a break, friend.

Eliminate distractions while you’re working on a task.

So, I’m the queen of this. It is straight up impossible to get things done during the time you have for them if you’re constantly distracted. Unfortunately, some of our most favorite things are, in fact, distractions. You know, cell phones, social media, Netflix. All the fun stuff.

Sometimes I’m really good at lining up my tasks for the day and getting motivated to get them done. But then, after a few minutes of productivity, I think I deserve a break. That break turns into twenty wasted minutes scrolling through one of the Real Housewives’ Twitter feed. Talk about a rabbit hole.

Doing these things sabotages the time you have to accomplish your goals for the day. Not getting those goals accomplished eats into your quality time at home.

Give yourself a strict no social media policy at work. Don’t give yourself any breaks to scroll through and browse. You may have a job where this is not even an option, and that’s great. However, there are numerous distractions no matter what job you have; just try not to fall into them.

There are definitely tasks to do at home as well. One thing you can do when you’re busy at home is turn off the tv when you’re working. You want to get your tasks done as efficiently as possible so you can enjoy quality time. Whether you’re washing the dishes, paying bills, or catching up on your blog, eliminate the distraction from the tv.

It’s hard to resist the millionth episode of Friends playing in the background when I’m doing something not fun. It’s too tempting to lose track of time, and losing track of time leaves more work for you to do during your quality time.

Work on your goals a little at a time.

Whatever goal you’re trying to accomplish, focus on it a little at a time. When something’s really important to you, it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement and drive to reach that goal.

As you’re working towards your goal, try to be mindful of how much time you’re spending, and spend that time in segments.

Are you working for three nonstop hours during your free time? Wouldn’t it be better for your home life to work for just one hour? Once that hour is up, you get to relax and unwind. Doing this allows you not to burn out while you’re chasing the dream.

By no means am I suggesting that you let your goals take the back burner. No way. What I am saying is work at a manageable pace. The view from the top won’t be nearly as sweet if you’re too tired to look around.

Use a planner and set aside times for tasks.

I swear if I didn’t have a planner, half of my day wouldn’t get accomplished. Giving yourself time to take a break at home and de-stress can only happen when you don’t feel like there’s still 18236182 tasks left to do for the day.

Grab yourself a planner that you really like and write down your to-do list for the day. Try to be as detailed as possible in your planning. I’m talking write down every little thing you need to do and exactly how much time you need to spend on it.

I really do have a love for planners. Some that I really like are the Erin Condren LifePlanner, the Emily Ley Simplified Planner, and my current planner from Plum Paper. Grab yourself a planner that breaks down the day into hours, so you can really take charge of your time.

My favorite layout is probably the Emily Ley Simplified Planner because it has a split page layout with hour breakdowns and a to do list check off. However, you can customize the Plum Paper planner and the LifePlanner to similar layouts.

If you can segment off time for your goals and tasks, you’re prepared to actually get them done. A visual representation of your to-dos can be really motivating. You have a plan, and you can see the finish line ahead..

Stick to your plans.

Is this too obvious to talk about? Maybe, it is for you, but not for me. I’m kind of a pro at making my planner look awesome with color coded task lists, and then skipping ten of them. Fail.

I probably skipped those to-dos because I got distracted or I procrastinated. Both total killers. Not to mention the fact that now I feel badly because I didn’t get everything done that I wanted to. That guilt stresses me out even more.

Once you make your plan for the day, challenge yourself to stick to it the best you can. Sometimes, of course, things come up. However, most days you can do the things you set out to do.

Keep your list visible at all times, and monitor how much time you’re spending on each task. I bet if you do this, you’ll actually find extra time left to catch up on some things you left behind at work the day before. Now you’re all caught up and maybe even a little ahead. Win!

Set aside a time to end the day.

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We talked above about planning out your day in detail. But, we didn’t talk about the one thing you probably have never thought of planning. The most important thing you need to plan is when you’re going to end your day. Set aside a time, any time that works for you, and stop. At some point the day just has to stop. You will burn yourself out otherwise.

Many times I’ve come home from work, continued to clean the house, make supper, and then work on my personal goals until time for bed. Every time I do this I feel as though I’m not really living. I feel like the hamster on the wheel, and I’m exhausted.

Pick a time, and stick to it. If you pick seven p.m., once the clock hits seven step away from the work. No more cleaning, no more grading, no more emailing. This is your time. Now you can zone out on YouTube, play with your kids, hang out on the couch with your husband or boyfriend, whatever you want to do just for fun.

When you can end your day, you can focus on having that quality time at home that you desperately need. I promise, quality time at home is the best thing for your stress level and overall happiness. You can’t de-stress if you never stop. Take a break; it’ll still be waiting for you tomorrow.

Thank you so much for spending some time here and reading my blog. Please leave a comment and share how you protect your quality time at home. I’d love to know what works for you and helps you de-stress after a long day. Also, feel free to share this content on your socials. Your support is very much appreciated!

One Thing You’re Doing That’s Destroying Your Relationship

 

Everyone wants to be in a happy relationship. That’s a given. We want to feel like we’re in the best relationship we could possibly be in, and we want to be just plain happy. Of course, we want our partners to be happy as well. Hopefully, this is the case with your current relationship. Or, if you’re not in one at the moment, maybe that’s why you got out of it. Maybe you just weren’t as happy as you could’ve been. If you are in one, what if you were doing something every day that’s silently chipping away at the health and happiness of that relationship? What if it was even something you were doing without realizing it?

Many times, when people are in a relationship that’s in trouble, they don’t see the trouble until it’s too late. Little things build up for awhile without realizing what’s happening. You may be in a perfectly happy relationship and think that there’s nothing for you to worry about. Hopefully, you’re absolutely right. But, what if something you’re doing is actually putting your relationship in jeopardy?

So, what is this thing we’re talking about?

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Expecting Total Equality in Your Relationship

In a perfect world, couples would be true equals. Your quirks would balance out his; he would be strong when you’re weak. Your workload and emotional burdens would be the same. But guess what? They’re just not. 

Of course you should treat each other fairly and always strive to maintain mutual respect and equal gratitude. But, I guarantee you there are times when you have resented your partner because you felt like you were just “doing more.”  That is a dangerous, dangerous game, friends.

When you start thinking of your relationship as a system of checks and balances, it’s really easy to skew those results in your favor. You can clearly see all the ways you’ve worked hard or been great because you were there for all of it. However, you might not be so fast to note all the work your boyfriend or husband puts in. Let’s face it, we can all be self-centered, and it’s a lot easier to notice all of our own hard work than someone else’s.

There are going to be times when you put more into your relationship. That is 100% fact. There are going to be times when your husband or boyfriend puts more into your relationship. That, too, is 100% fact. If you spend your time focusing on who’s giving what or who’s doing what, you will damage your relationship. To what extent, who knows really. That depends on you and when you decide to stop caring about whether or not you’ve cleaned equal parts of the house or given equal amounts of affection and attention lately.

Let’s be honest here, since that’s what this blog is all about. I have allowed myself to participate in this type of thinking many times. I work a full time job just like my husband. At the end of the week, I clean our house from top to bottom unlike my husband. How easy would it be to get annoyed by that? I can tell you, really dang easy. It’s not just housework we’re talking about though. It’s the emotional parts of your relationship as well.

There are many times where I’ve felt like why am I the one who has to do x, y, z when I have just as much going on as he does? Can you hear the pettiness in that type of thinking? I hope so because I surely can. That’s really easy to say now though and not so much in that moment when I’m standing at the sink and he’s fishing. I’m getting real here people. Join me.

Recognizing that you’re doing this type of stuff is the first step to stopping it. And you must stop it.  Every time you allow yourself to go down that road, a block of resentment settles right into your relationship. At times, you may be more giving than your partner and you make a point to notice it. Another block. A week goes by and you’ve managed all the accounts, paid all the bills, and bought all the groceries with little recognition of the time it took from your schedule. Two more blocks. Now you’re building a wall. This is how relationships get into major trouble.

When you fixate on whether or not things are 50/50, you’re creating impossible standards to live by. There’s no way that you would be able to perfectly balance out every chore, every act of kindness, and every bit of hard work. That would be completely exhausting not to mention a complete waste of your time and energy.

Let Go of Expectations and Accept Reality

Expectations can get us in a lot of trouble. It’s unfair to your partner to have an idea of the way you think things should go, and then get upset when it doesn’t play out like that. How would anyone be able to please you? They can’t. And if your partner feels like he can never please you, he’ll start building his own wall–a wall of frustration. Now we’ve got a real recipe for disaster. You’re full of resentment and he’s had enough.

You can stop that from happening. Shift your focus. Try to notice all the things that he is doing that have made your day a little easier, a little happier. Put yourself in his shoes, and imagine what his day has been like. My husband works long hours at a really difficult job. I know that what he deals with on a regular basis does not compare to my work struggles. But guess what? He doesn’t compare our jobs. Instead, he supports me and listens to me even when what he dealt with might have been “worse.”

You never know what might have happened during the day that your husband or boyfriend set aside in order to be there for you. He made an effort to come in with a positive attitude instead of letting work ruin your time together. Maybe you feel like being extra affectionate on that particular night. If you expected him to come home and be equally affectionate towards you and he wasn’t, you probably would be both annoyed and disappointed. And you just let expectations cloud your reality. You overlooked the fact that he actually did put you first. You missed it because it wasn’t the way you expected him to do it. It wasn’t your version of equality.

You’re not in your relationship to keep score

The reason that you’re in your relationship is because you love your partner. You don’t want them to feel anything other than truly and sincerely loved. It’s really hard to feel that way if you constantly hear about all the ways you’re not doing enough. No one starts a relationship by signing a contract agreeing to equal terms at all times.

Relationships are all about give and take. There’s no way to give if all you do is complain about how much is taken from you. It goes back to having a servant’s heart. You’re contributing to someone else’s happiness and thinking about how what you’re doing is a humble gift to your partner. No one wins by you holding on to all the ways you think you did too much or your boyfriend or husband didn’t do enough.

The honest truth…

I am guilty of doing less for my husband than he does for me. If I really did sit down and somehow calculate all the different ways we could “score” our relationship, he would win. No matter how many loads of laundry I may do or bathtubs I may scrub, he has done more for me than I could ever repay.

Besides the fact that he does a lot of work around the house like I ask him to, he also works hard at our relationship. He is kind and thoughtful in ways that I’m not sometimes. He puts up with my bad moods and snappy attitude after a long day. We’re definitely not 50/50 when I’m having a difficult time. It is 100% him keeping us afloat. How grateful am I that he doesn’t expect total equality? I bet if you think about it too your husband or boyfriend does the same things for you.

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We have to understand our differences

At a time when equality is certainly on the minds of our society, we cannot make the mistake of trying to force that into our relationships. There’s no place for it when you love someone. You won’t ever find it. Be thankful instead that there is someone around who can pick up your slack. Men and women truly do carry different burdens in relationships. Women tend to carry the emotional load and men often deal with the practical things. They are both difficult in their own, individual ways. It does no good to compare the two. They’re not the same, and you won’t ever find an equal solution. Do your best to carry your burdens gracefully, and be thankful that your partner is around to carry his.

Leave a comment and let me know if I’m the only one who’s ever been guilty of letting expectations of equality influence my relationship.

Spring Outfits and Style Inspiration

 

Ok, show of hands, who’s ready for Spring? I don’t know about where you are, but here in South Mississippi Spring has already sprung, and I am on board and ready for the new season. Every time the weather changes, that means we have to switch up our style a bit, right? I definitely think so. Nothing helps me with a fresh outlook better than a fresh style. With that in mind, I thought what better way to look forward to Spring than to share some Spring outfits and style inspiration!

 

 

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1. Powder Pink Trumpet Sleeve Blouse- H & M

I absolutely love simple, casual style, and this trumpet sleeve blouse screams casual Spring style to me. I also think soft colors like this are flattering on everyone. This top can be worn with a pair of skinnies or shorts for that casual look. However, I also think this would be a great Spring blouse for work. It would look great with a pair of slacks and heels. Versatile clothes are a must in my closet, and any closet on a budget. You certainly get the most for your money when a piece can be worn in different settings and with a variety of options.

Maybe going with pastel colors is cliche and over done, but they’re just so pretty. How can you resist? The rich jewel tones of Fall and Winter are beautiful, but by the time Spring rolls around, I’m looking for some lighter, brighter colors to toss in the mix. Loose, flowy tops like this one in a soft pink, purple, or coral are a must for me.

 2. Strappy Tassel High Heels- Jane

One of the main reasons Spring makes me so happy is the shoes I get to wear again. Imma let you in on a little secret; I’m short. Like, really short. So, I love any excuse to bust out a good high heel. And it’s so easy to do during the Spring time because there are so many open toed heels on the market that can be both casual and dressy.

Take, for example, these super cute tassel high heels. I love the block heel and the way they are strappy not just around the ankle but around the toes as well. I think that’s a flattering look for everyone’s feet. The tassels also add a bit of sass, and I always love sass. Shoes like these that can take you from day to night are essential. They would look great with skinnies and a casual top or a Spring dress. Win, win.

3. Floral Maxi Dress- Jane

Maxi dresses are life to me. I think they are so beautiful and feminine. If you can’t tell, to me, that’s what Spring style is all about– soft, feminine looks. This floral maxi dress certainly fits that description. Also, I actually love the non-typical Spring colors in this dress. The darker hues tie in nicely with the winter months, which makes for a great transition piece. A dress like this would be great to wear to a bridal shower or event you might have coming up.

So, you know how I said I’m short? It’s rare that I can actually wear maxi dresses because I have to hem them, obviously. Sigh. That means, to have the perfect maxi dress, I have to find one that won’t look crazy once it’s had a few inches hacked off. That’s part of the reason why I love this one so much. Big florals or any sort of large print pattern works well if you happen to need a hem like me.

Bonus tip: If you’ve never ordered anything from Jane, they’re an awesome company with amazing deals on Boutique style clothing, shoes, and all sorts of good stuff!

4. Soft Glam Eyeshadow Pallette- Anastasia Beverly Hills

I don’t own this palette. Yet. My mouse is sitting on go, but my bank account is pumping the brakes for a second. The minute I’m able (not that I need another eye shadow pallette, but who cares), I’m snatching this baby up. I do have the ABH Modern Renaissance palette, and it’s one of my holy grails. If this one is even close to the quality of the Modern Renaissance, trust me, you’ll want it too.

It’s not just Spring outfits that makeup up our Spring looks. Our beauty routine is just as much a part of our style as our clothes and accessories. I’m a firm believer that you can rock any color lipstick, eyeshadow, blush, or whatever anytime you good and well please. But I do find myself in different makeup moods during the different seasons. I betcha can’t guess what makeup mood I’m in for Spring. You got it, soft and feminine. The colors in this pallette are so subtle and pretty. The shades can be worn casually during the day or amped up for night time. It’s a mix of mauves, roses, berries, and golds. I absolutely cannot wait to get my hands on the Soft Glam palette.

5. 1″ Flipperless Gold Curling Wand- Hot Tools

Hair is yet another way to freshen up your style for Spring. I love to wear my hair curly or wavy all year long, but I find myself styling my hair this way even more often in the Spring. Loose curls compliment florals and pastels so well. This wand from Hot Tools is one of my favorite styling tools. It does a great job giving me even, bouncy curls or loose waves. I have long hair, and I like the 1″ size. I can wrap bigger sections loosely for a very subtle wave. And I can also take smaller sections, wrapped tightly and create a piecey style that I really like.

This wand is not only awesome at styling, it’s also awesomely affordable. I’ve tried wands that are much more expensive, and I honestly don’t see a difference. My curls last all day. Or, to be honest, several days with a lot of dry shampoo. Hot Tools products always work for me, so I keep on coming back.

 6. Gen Nude Matte Liquid Lip Color in Cookie- bareMinerals

Let’s be honest, liquid lipstick can be an actual pain to wear. Most of the time they look amazing, but feel awful. Thankfully, the Gen Nude liquid lipsticks from bareMinerals actually look and feel good. These have a different texture than typical liquid lipsticks. They’re very cloud-like and not liquidy at all. Did I mention that they smell like brownie batter? Like, legit brownie batter that you make in your kitchen.

Even if you don’t like or don’t want to try this particular liquid lip, it’s the color of this one that is most important to me. The shade, Cookie, is a subtle melon that looks great with so many makeup looks. I don’t always love a super bright pink lipstick, but when the shade is a subtle pink, it’s very wearable, not to mention very Spring appropriate.

 7. Aimee Layered Y-Chain Necklace- Bauble Bar

You can’t have a style guide without at least one accessory. So many people love this necklace from Bauble Bar and for good reason. It goes with absolutely everything, and it’s a statement all on its own. I get compliments on this necklace every time I wear it. The three chains are different patterns, which makes it really stand out. I love any accessory that does the coordinating and stacking for me.

Finding a statement accessory to go along with your Spring wardrobe is key. You don’t need to have a million pairs of earrings or fifty bracelets to try and coordinate with all your clothes. If you can get a few really great items, you’re all set. Layered necklaces and chokers are dainty and work well with any and every Spring outfit you might put together!

 

I hope that some of these items have gotten you in the Spring mood. Whatever style you like, think of the ways you can incorporate some Spring trends. I’d love to know what you’re going to be rocking this season. Let me know in the comments how you plan on changing your style routine!

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