The Cornerstones of a Happy Mindset: The Importance of Grace

I spend a lot of my time thinking and writing about the things that make me happy, the things that cause me heartache, and the things that I can improve on. Reflecting on these things has allowed me greater insight into what, at least for me, makes up a fulfilled, peaceful life. So, I got inspired. I thought I would start a blog series on the things that I think will lead you to a happier outlook on life. We’re going to call this series The Cornerstones of a Happy Mindset. I can’t wait to share them with you.

First up–Grace.

What exactly does that word mean? It gets thrown around in conversations, and I hear it all the time. But, until recently, I’ve never really thought much about what it means to me.

However, what I do know is that I, so often, lack grace, and I need to focus on it and define it for myself.

So, here it is. Grace is forgiveness. It is the acceptance of others’ faults, of your own shortcomings, of things you cannot change, of the difficult, impossible situations that come your way. It is extending love, humility, and understanding towards those around you. And it is vital to experiencing a content, happy life.

The most important form of grace that we experience is, of course, from our Heavenly Father. There is no other form of grace more complete or more perfect. I, in no way, shape, or form, can practice grace on such a level. I would never even claim to try. However, what I can do is take that most perfect example of grace and focus on that as a cornerstone of my personal mindset.

In thinking about that, I had to ask myself: How can I depend on God to extend His grace to me, and never consider the many ways that I lack grace? I couldn’t come up with an answer for that. So, I had to be honest with myself about where grace was missing from my life.

This is a place of honesty, so I’m going to be open here. It is truly hard for me to be graceful. I don’t think it’s something that comes naturally for me, like it seems to in so many people that I admire.

It is so much easier to hold onto grudges, justify my own behavior and attitude, and get mad when I don’t feel like being considerate. And, it’s hard and uncomfortable to confront my own mistakes and faults. I don’t know about you, but I don’t like to do things that are hard and uncomfortable. When you can’t confront your own stuff, it’s certainly easier to point out and hold onto another’s.

Here’s the plus side, it’s something that is totally fixable. What I’m trying to do now is keep grace in the forefront of my mind. My hope is that by focusing on the idea, I can, in fact, become more graceful.

Perhaps I’ll be able to be more accepting, and hopefully I will become more centered and at ease. Maybe I can become more forgiving and carry myself with a bit more love and dignity.

One thing’s for certain, turmoil fights hard to take center stage in our lives, but we can’t let it. We have to be able to find peace and acceptance, strength and humility in the midst of the chaos.

That’s definitely easier said than done. But, it’s possible. I have seen and felt a change within myself since I’ve started focusing on the idea of grace. I want to share some things that I like to do to help me find that poise and strength.

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1. Pray and pray often.
2. Spend some quality time with yourself. Not Netflix time, quality time. For me it’s reading, writing, thinking, and reflecting on how I’m living my life and affecting those around me.
3. Surround yourself with people who encourage you and make extending grace so incredibly easy.
4. Keep the word in your mind. Doodle it, focus on it, make a note on your phone. It makes a difference I promise.

If you focus on being graceful and extending grace towards others, it will absolutely improve and strengthen your own sense of happiness and fulfillment. I just don’t believe that we can go through life being totally self-centered and expect to be truly happy. We were created to be connected.

One more thing- I want to reemphasize something I said earlier about grace. You have to grant yourself some too, and it’s just as important as extending it to anyone else.

Recently, I’ve been really beating myself up over some things, and it was making me so unhappy. I couldn’t get past mistakes that I made and would fixate on them to the point where I felt so defeated. Then I realized, if I want grace to be a key focus in the way I live my life, it has to apply to me too. I have to make an effort to forgive myself and find some understanding and acceptance for things I just can’t change. And so do you.

I hope that by sharing my feelings about grace, I’ve connected with you in some way or made you start thinking about your own cornerstones. Please share with me what you consider attitudes or ideas that are keys to a happy life. I’d love for you to join the conversation!

10 Reasons Why You Should Start a Blog

Have you ever considered starting a blog? Maybe you’ve thought about it but dismissed it as a silly or impractical notion. If you have never thought about blogging, have you ever wanted to share your thoughts, ideas, or feelings? If the answer is yes, then you need to start a blog. Not someday, but now! I’ve only been blogging for three months, but it has already brought me so much joy and fulfillment. I want that for you too, so I’m going to give you all the reasons you should start a blog.

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Here are ten reasons why you should start a blog.

1. It’s a creative outlet.

Everyone needs a space to explore their creativity. Think you’re not creative? Wrong! You absolutely are. Everyone’s creativity shows up in different ways. Maybe yours is yet to be discovered. Writing can unleash that creativity.

You may know exactly what you’re good at and exactly what your creative gifts are. If so, that’s awesome, and even more of a reason to start a blog. Chances are, most people don’t get to see or experience your creativity. Your gifts and talents are valuable to other people, and you should be sharing them. I know I’m always in need of food, design, and fashion inspiration. Maybe you’re the person to inspire me, but you just haven’t started blogging yet.

2. There’s room on the internet for everyone.

One of the reasons I hesitated (for six months) on starting my blog was because I didn’t think there was anything new to say. I worried that all the interesting blogs were already being written. That’s not true. Of course there is a plethora of awesome blogs out there, but you can write one of those awesome blogs too.

You never know if your unique perspective is what people are dying to read. No matter how many people are already blogging, none of those people are you. No one experiences things the way you do. What you have to say is unique, and people will read it if your passion is evident.

3. You can uncover your stregnths.

Sometimes, we don’t get a chance to spend much time with the things we’re best at. With blogging, you can spend a dedicated amount of time developing those strengths. If you’re great at decorating your house on a budget, you can share that greatness with other people. Along the way, your skills will keep getting better and better. You’ll be pushing yourself to create fabulous content. You might even push yourself to tackle those projects you can never find time for.

Also, you might actually uncover a strength that you didn’t know you had. As you blog, you’ll find things that are easier to write about than others. The things you have the most to say about reveal your passions and talents. In the same way, people will respond to the things you’re best at.

4. You can find fulfillment for yourself.

Do you ever feel like there’s not a chance for you to do something for yourself just because? I know I felt that way before I started my blog. I felt like I wasn’t being challenged enough creatively. Blogging gives you the opportunity to write about and think about what makes you happy. You’ll have planned time each week to focus on the things that bring you the most joy. Even better, you’ll be accomplishing and fulfilling goals along the way.

5. Blogging can be a personal challenge

Blogging can be a personal challenge that motivates you to get stuff done! If you’ve ever felt like you could do more or accomplish more, then you can and you should. Use blogging to motivate yourself to accomplish your goals. It certainly can be hard to find time to write and create content. However, if you take it as a challenge, you might be surprised how motivated you’ll be in other aspects of your life. I start my days earlier and get more done during the day now that I have a specific goal to work on.

6. Blogging can make you step out of your comfort zone.

This is one of the best reasons why you should start a blog. Being comfortable is a good thing as long as you’re not complacent. Complacency is dangerous. You don’t want to be wasting your potential do ya? No, of course you don’t. Absolutely do not let the fear of being misunderstood keep you from starting a blog. It’s ok if other people don’t really get what you’re doing. Actually, if you’re making other people question you, you’re probably doing something right.

Anytime you take a step away from the norm, it is hard. But, I promise, it is so worth it. You will never know what you’re capable of until you push yourself past what’s comfortable. Blogging will do that for you, and it truly is so rewarding.

7. You will be heard.

Doesn’t everyone want people to listen when they have something to say? With blogging, you will be able to share honest experiences and opinions, and people will hear you. Sometimes, people will even challenge you, and that’s exciting. In your everyday life, you may not get to talk about all the things that are important to you. A blog allows you to say what’s on your mind and heart.

8. It gives you the chance to share and connect with others.

On the same note, having people hear you allows people to connect with you. It’s a wonderful thing to share something and have others relate to you and your experience. You may find that more people relate to your life than what you think. Also, you never know what kind of friendships you may make. In the age of social media, try another outlet like blogging to make a more genuine connection with people than a distant, one sided follow.

9. The opportunity to document your life experience.

I have always valued journaling throughout my life. There’s something special about taking the time to write down your life as you go. Your memories are never as vivid as a personal account in real time. Blogging gives you the chance to preserve your memories and experiences. We change throughout life, and a blog allows you to see the change and reflect on your life. I think that’s an amazing gift.

10. Blogging can allow you to work for yourself.

If nothing else on this list motivates you, maybe this one will. Imagine a world in which you can be your own boss, and work from home. Blogging can help you to do that if you work it right. My blog may never take me down that road, but it could. Isn’t that an exciting possibility? There are so many men and women who make a living from their blogs. They turn their passions and talents into a career. I don’t know about you, but just the possibility of that excites me and motivates me to get to work.

I hope that you found a reason somewhere in this list that resonates with you and makes you want to start a blog. Honestly, I think that you will benefit from blogging. If you’re interested in my journey, start back here at the beginning and see how far I’ve come in just a few short months. Happy blogging, friends!